You’ll See It When You Believe It – Growing Your Life From the Inside Out”

 

You'll See It When You Believe It – Growing Your Life From the Inside Out"

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If you wait until you see it, to believe it, you may have a very long wait.  if you opt to believe it right now, your life will start to fall into place - and you'll feel a lot happier too.

Keywords:
negativity, harmful generalisations, affirmations, happiness, managing emotions

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Generally you pick up on the things that resonate with your beliefs and your view of the world.  This is why, when you're feeling bad, bad things rain down on you relentlessly.

There are the real, major issues that you have to contend with and then there are the generalizations that you have learned to draw from them, like: "Life is hard" "It always seems to happen to me" etc.

It isn't in any way your fault, of course.  It's also true that bad things happen to happy people too. 

Happy people are not necessarily fortunate people in the sense of everything in their life being hunky-dory.  How many people do you know who have good relationships, good health, financial security and are still discontented, bored or only half-alive?  I can certainly think of a few.   

Happy people are the people who have learned to modify their mood, manage their emotions and choose their reactions.  Language, which we all have, is the sole tool that they need to do so.

You end up believing what other people tell you, when they tell you something often, or convincingly enough.  How many times have you found yourself believing some daft, but effective, advertising slogan, despite your better judgment?  How many times have you reviled yourself for being lazy, or stupid or worthless, even when you know that is not really you, because that's what you've been told repeatedly?

If you'll see it when you believe it, then the first thing to do is choose beliefs that serve you.  You can do that because you only have to tell yourself a thing often enough and you will believe it.  Unless, of course, your real mantra is: "Well, I'll try it, but I know it won't work for me."  In which case it won't –because you'll get what you've affirmed. 

But you can choose an affirmation that allows your spirit to soar.  You can start from wherever you are with whatever words seem most appropriate to you.  Purely as an example, you could choose to affirm something like: "I now give myself permission to celebrate my strength, my uniqueness and my precious humanity."

Say it once and nothing will happen.  Say it several times each day, over a period of weeks and old limiting beliefs will start to lose their hold. 

Or you could do it the way Sandy Forster advocates in "How To Be Wildly Wealthy Fast".  Instead of just saying your affirmation, you go through it, putting the stress on the first word first time round, the second word second time round and so on until you reach the last word. 

An affirmation of 15 words, like the one above will probably take you 2 or 3 minutes to work through.  By the time you've finished, it will have interrupted any habitual negative loop and lifted your spirits. 

Do that a few times a day, when negative thoughts kick in and it won't be that many days before you start to feel different.  And when you start to believe different things, you'll start to see different things. 

Yes, it's cheap, cheerful and ridiculously simple.  Often what stops you achieving something you truly want is not the enormity or the complexity of the thing.  It may just be a small, but crucial bit of information you lack, without which nothing seems to make sense.

The question is: are you prepared to give it a go?

(C) 2005 Annie Kaszina

 

You Make Me Feel

 

You Make Me Feel

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760

Summary:
Do you spend your life feeling things because of what the people around you say and do? Discover how you can take charge of your life and your emotions and life a powerful life.

Keywords:
goals, goal setting, motivation, success, living motivation, jason johns, sanjo, hypnosis, achieving your goals

Article Body:
Do other people make you feel things?

Do they make you feel happy or sad?

I'm curious. How do they make you feel this way?

Do they say, "Hey, here's a tin of sadness."

Or maybe they say, "Ahh, you need a bucket of happiness. Hold on, I've got one here you can have."

Can you find happiness or sadness on the supermarket shelves, pre-packaged and ready to go?

Shopaholics amongst you would argue that you could; however I would say you can't.

We often rely on other people to "make" us feel a certain way. We rely on them to do something, say something, be something in order for us to feel happy. If they don't do what we are expecting them to, we get upset, sad and hurt.

In short, we often attempt to control other people in order to control how we feel; that is, our emotions.

And when we do this, we are setting ourselves up for failure, because we can't control anyone else. We cannot force anyone to do anything or assume they will.

There is just one person we control; ourselves.

People don't make us feel certain emotions. We choose to feel them. We decide to react in a certain way. We make assumptions about what people mean. We leap to conclusions.

No one can give you a tin of unhappiness, or a bucket of joy. These things are not physical items that can be passed from person to person. They are intangible items that exist only in ourselves.

In fact just the other day I was at a wedding. I told one of my friends how wonderful she looked and how much I liked her outfit. She leapt to the conclusion that I was being sarcastic and chose to be offended by what was a genuine compliment.

Had I even been being sarcastic, she could have chosen to be complimented and replied with a, "I'm glad you like it" and felt better about herself.

There was a guy I knew when I was younger. He was short, balding, spotty and he had been short changed in the looks department. Yet whenever we went out to bars, he'd wander up to any pretty woman and start talking to her. If she turned him down, he'd shrug his shoulders and continue.

I don't think it ever even occurred to him to feel bad about these rejections. He'd just smile and say, "Your loss" and move on to the next one.

Believe it or not, each of you are in control of yourself and how you feel. You can choose to feel anyway you want. Right now, you could choose to feel happy; or I am sure you could choose to feel sad. Just by thinking about it, you could change how you feel.

It's almost magic isn't it?

So what about choosing how you feel when you are interacting with other people?

The vast majority of people run on auto-pilot. They allow their body and mind to more or less get on with it, not worrying too much about the programs that are running or the condition of it. It doesn't interfere with them too much so they allow it to get on with it.

It's like watching all the cars driving around a city and not realising there is someone inside controlling them.

Most people have forgotten there is this "person" inside of them controlling them.

If you choose, you can take back control of how you feel and stop relying on other people to meet certain conditions.

When you go to the office and someone says, "Good Morning" to you, you can choose to grumble and mutter, "There's nothing good about it." Or, you can choose to reply in kind and say, "It's a fantastic morning."

That is, you can choose to feel bad or choose to feel good.

Which do you prefer?

Realise that you are the only person who can make you feel anything and stop allowing the people around you to make you feel bad. Decide to feel good and enjoy yourself.

If someone turns you down or rejects you, "It's their loss" or something similar.

If someone says insults you, "Poor thing, must be confused" or something similar.

Decide to take back control of yourself and your life and to stop being on auto-pilot. Choose how you are going to feel instead of allowing other people to choose for you.

 

Approaching Women: The Simple Event That Changed My Life

Approaching Women:  The Simple Event That Changed My Life

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1259

Summary:
Despite all the "seduction gurus" out there proffering tips and tricks to "picking up women", the author learns the true secret to approaching and meeting women for the first time…by total accident.

Keywords:
pickup, meeting women, dating, relationships, flirting, attraction, confidence, seduction, approaching women, self-help, motivation, improvement

Article Body:
Copyright 2006 X & Y Communications

It was a perfectly normal Saturday afternoon.  I was going to visit my girlfriend later in the day, but until then it was time to run the usual slate of typical, mundane errands.

Even though I was in a relationship at the time, I had learned from my research on men and women that 'style' was important—so I had some nice jeans and a button down shirt on.  My belt and my shoes matched, and I was in "Successful Guy Saturday Casual" mode.

After a quick trip to the post office and a stop at the bicycle shop, it was time to go to Target.  I needed several things, so I got a cart.

I had checked off toothpaste, light bulbs and a couple items from the automotive department when I happened to see someone I knew at the end of the aisle.  I had only met her once, but she was a friend of my girlfriend's.  So I knew I had better say "hello".  After all, "making nice" with the girlfriend's friends is always a plus.

She didn't appear to notice who I was, so as I reached where she was I tapped her shoulder with the back of my hand and said (simply), "Hey!".   She turned and responded back with a reciprocal "Hey!", with a warm smile and that classic "eyebrow flash" that the body-language books talk about.

"So it looks like even superheroes like you and I still have to shop for normal, everyday stuff at the Target, right?", I said, noticing a few stray items in her shopping cart.

"I suppose!", she acknowledged with a laugh.

I continued with very typical small talk after that.  As the conversation continued, I started feeling something strange…if not downright creepy.

My girlfriend's friend, if my mind wasn't playing tricks on me, was starting to behave in a manner that I would ALMOST call…FLIRTATIOUS.

I was caught off guard.  After all, if what I was seeing was really happening, it was COMPLETELY INAPPROPRIATE.  After all, not only was I dating this woman's friend…this woman was MARRIED!

So I maintained that 18" distance that social mores dictate is proper, while continuing with perfectly normal conversation.  But soon, there was no denying the body language.  She was clearly enjoying the interaction, and eventually made a comment or two that were unmistakably forward.

At this point I was going OUT OF MY WAY to not appear romantically interested in return.  Yet, I couldn't help the thoughts that were racing in my mind.  This woman was CLEARLY ATTRACTED to me.  On top of the impropriety of it all, I was struck by the IMPROBABILITY of it all.  This woman was 15 years my junior and at least FIVE INCHES TALLER than me!

Now, let me level-set here.  My girlfriend at the time was a beautiful woman, and her friend was likewise very attractive.  So here we had a situation where a woman who was NOT MY TYPE AT ALL, and indeed not one of the ones I would immediately picture going after a guy like me, was UNQUESTIONABLY  INTERESTED.

At that point I realized that this conversation needed to end…and SOON, for obvious reasons.  To that effect I said, "Well, time to get back to shopping.  But I'll tell [my girlfriend's name] you said 'hello'."

There was a slight pause.  Then a quizzical look from the woman.

"Uh…who's [my girlfriend's name]?", she wondered.  I looked back with an equally querulous expression.  "…Aren't you Jennifer?"

"Um…nooooooo…my name is Felicia."

With my mind racing in several different directions, I happened to look down and noticed there was no ring on her left hand.

I spontaneously laughed, and explained to her what had just happened.  The woman really was a dead ringer for who I thought she was.

She responded with warm eyes and a feminine giggle.  "So that's…IT...?", she said with one raised eyebrow and a motion of the hand to indicate continuation.  I politely ended the conversation there anyway, of course, because I had a girlfriend, and returned to shopping.

But I was changed forever.

Why?

I had read time and again about how something like 90% of men have some fear of approaching women.  Furthermore, I had read about how the single most important factor in GETTING OVER that fear is to simply GO OUT AND MEET WOMEN.  The problem is that most of the time we as guys can't get out of our own way when doing so…assuming we get up the guts to even try.

So, in one brief exercise—and by TOTAL ACCIDENT—I had unequivocally proven what it takes to successfully meet women.  Ironically, the "success" was OVERWHELMINGLY due to the fact that I wasn't trying to "pick this woman up".

So what's going on there?

Let's outline the key principles and components of that experience at the Target:

1)       I had started the day making sure I looked my best.  I was READY for an interaction with a woman…if not the woman at the Target.

2)       I had NO HIDDEN AGENDA with this woman from a sexual perspective.  There was nothing about my approach that caused her to put her guard up.  I was just making normal conversation.  As such, there was a comfortable atmosphere surrounding the whole thing.

3)       Based on the fact that I believed I already knew this woman, I was 100% CONFIDENT that I wouldn't be flatly rejected when I spoke to her.  Think about it.  If you behave as if you are sure that talking to someone will be met with a positive response, you will not be nervous or sketchy about it at all.

4)       My "opener" with her was a simple "Hey!" with a light, backhanded whack on the shoulder.  No fancy, contrived "lines".

5)       This was not a bar or some other special "pick up joint".  This was the TARGET!

Bear in mind that this woman, although very beautiful, was not at all the type of woman I would ever see myself approaching or see myself with.  And consider that it took virtually no direct effort to impress her.  What appeared to "impress her" was the sincerity and confidence portrayed in simply wanting to talk to her.

THAT'S IT.

There is no doubt that this woman perceived my approach as being related to her being a woman and me being a man.  Although I was not even close to who the "media" would match her up with, the combination of facility, confidence and a low-pressure approach WORKED WONDERS.  Ladies, that kind of attitude is what you look forward to when it comes to men approaching you, is it not?  Don't shout me down for telling the truth!

After that day, I made sure that my "accidental discovery" became firmly embedded into my conscience.  After that, talking to any woman I want—anywhere—has been all about considering her someone I already know, and affording her the simple respect that goes along with it.  No woman has ever been a "stranger", ever since.

Guys:  If you have any trepidation at all when it comes to meeting a woman you find attractive, learn from this lesson and I assure you your life will be radically transformed.  You have the ability to meet any woman you choose to.  Make it so.

Ladies:  Here's to more guys learning what I learned that day.  I know you all are patiently waiting…

 

Anxiety Is A Thief

Anxiety Is A Thief

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Have you ever experienced anxiety? I wouldn't hesitate to say that out of 100 adults surveyed, all 100 would tell you they have experienced some form of anxiety. Anxiety is a normal part of our existence. In the early years of man, anxiety and adrenalin served the purpose of keeping us alert to approaching danger. This kept us alive. Today, the anxiety that many of us feel is in response to ever increasing daily responsibilities and no increase in the amount of time available...

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Have you ever experienced anxiety? I wouldn't hesitate to say that out of 100 adults surveyed, all 100 would tell you they have experienced some form of anxiety. Anxiety is a normal part of our existence. In the early years of man, anxiety and adrenalin served the purpose of keeping us alert to approaching danger. This kept us alive. Today, the anxiety that many of us feel is in response to ever increasing daily responsibilities and no increase in the amount of time available to take care of those responsibilities.

Some people, however, experience a far worse condition of anxiety. Anxiety attacks, or panic attacks, as they are often referred to, rob individuals of their ability to function normally. Fear seizes their mind, numbing their ability to think and process thought clearly. They are afraid to even breathe at times and sometimes unable to breathe normally.

This is a debilitating condition. Can you imagine being gripped by fear and panic, to the point that you could not even accomplish a simple trip to the grocery store? It is a daily situation for many adults. The greatest dilemma faced by the panic stricken individual is the isolation many feel, and the inability to reach out to someone for help. The very nature of the disease isolates the patient, and makes treatment options seem nonexistent. Seeking treatment would mean that they had to exist outside the comfort zone of their home, or their bedroom.

Often a person will experience circumstances that bring on severe anxiety or panic, and once the circumstances causing the panic are resolved or dissipate, so does the anxiety. I don't believe you can go through your entire adult life, and never experience some form of heightened anxiety. If you have responsibilities, children, loved ones, and friends, there is probably going to be a situation that causes you to experience severe anxiety. Some people never experience an attack. But many do, and for those people, it is a fleeting thing. But every once in a while, someone experiences anxiety and panic, and it begins to grow inside them. It consumes their life. For these people, simple responsibilities become scary situations.

The good news, in fact the only bright spot I can see, in this disease, is that it is a condition readily treatable with counseling and the use of self-help techniques including meditation, mild medications, and biofeedback. Empowering the individual and allowing them to take part in their own treatment is in itself a way to stop the anxiety and panic. Once an individual begins to feel they are in control of their lives, again, you are even closer to banishing the overwhelming anxiety and panic. Since the onset of this disease is worsened by the individuals belief in their inability to control their daily lives, reestablishing control is absolutely necessary.

 

Answering the Time-Old Question – What is Self Image?

Answering the Time-Old Question – What is Self Image?

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429

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Self image has been scrutinized by psychologists and philosophers alike for centuries. Even though there are many arguments as to what self image is exactly, people will agree that self image has much to do with how a person feels about him/herself.

Keywords:
Self Image, Self Esteem, Self Improvement, self

Article Body:
Self image has been scrutinized by psychologists and philosophers alike for centuries. Even though there are many arguments as to what self image is exactly, people will agree that self image has much to do with how a person feels about him/herself. Some would say that self image means how a person views himself in the world. What a person does everyday - their job, how they treat others, how attractive they are to others - hinges on their self image. Some people have positive perceptions of themselves, while others do not. It is believed that people who have positive perceptions of themselves have been told they are good, or useful. Those who are constantly told they aren't good or useful, have negative perceptions of themselves.

This leads to another definition of self image which is how others view a person. If others do not enjoy a person's company, the person may develop a poor self image. If other people do not find a person attract, the person may suffer from poor self image. People often put too much emphasis on what others think about them. It is important to remember that one's self image will change throughout their lifetime. They begin to rely less on what others think about them as they mature and find hobbies and social groups that accept them. Their perception changes as they become more educated. Learning a skill or learning more about the world can have a positive impact on a person's self esteem.

Sometimes, though, a person needs counseling in order to develop a positive self image. This is very common among women and teenagers. Fashion magazines show women that are perfect when in reality they are not. Some women feel they cannot live up to these expectations and become depressed. Teenagers feel the same way when they compare themselves to others in their peer group. Unrealistic comparisons like these are dangerous. They can lead to eating disorders, disruptive behavior, and eventually drug or alcohol abuse. Talking with a therapist can sometimes make a person realize that they do not have to compare themselves to others. Their self image improves and they can lead happy lives.

Self image needs to be nurtured. Everyone feels less than perfect sometimes. But most people recover and go on with their lives. But some people cannot let go of these bad feelings as easily. Their self image is so unrealistic, they make themselves sick and need professional help and advice in order to gain the strength needed to get past those bead feelings.

 

Anger Management Therapy for Dementia Patients

Anger Management Therapy for Dementia Patients

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501

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The truth about anger management and dementia. Simple steps to a calmer less stressful life This article talks about helping people with dementia conquer anger and improve self esteem. Whether you have problems controlling anger or know someone close to you that does then this article is sure to be of interest to you.

Keywords:
anger management, anger class management, anger management technique, anger management teen, anger management program, anger management teenager, adolescent anger management

Article Body:
Older people sometimes develop dementia, a somewhat common condition that results in mental and emotional confusion. Some of these people, often those who are institutionalized, display anger outbursts due to relatively mild provocations, such as an unwanted meal item. At other times the anger is warranted, as when another resident initiates a conflict. For reasons like these and others, anger management therapy for dementia patients is becoming increasingly important.

Symptoms That May Warrant Anger Management Therapy

It may be difficult to determine at first who is eligible for anger management therapy. Residents with dementia who live at home or in nursing facilities often try to express themselves in non-traditional ways. While someone who wants their breakfast oatmeal served hotter can just say so, someone with dementia might be able to just make anxious sounds, pace, or even throw the oatmeal on the floor. If someone in your care exhibits dissatisfaction with some aspect of daily care, try to figure out what is bothering the person, and make any needed adjustments that you can.

Dementia patients may raise their voice, swing their arms, push, shove, or yank at things or people to convey their irritation. Caregivers must learn to decipher true anger from confusion or self-defense against other aggressive residents. Anger management therapy should be considered for those who express real anger inappropriately.

Some dementia residents may withdraw socially, stop talking to others, or gesticulate excitedly when they are upset. Sometimes these actions are in response to legitimate concerns, while at other times they may reflect unsuitable anger that needs to be redirected. If the person is able to understand and respond to caregivers in appropriate ways, he or she may be eligible for anger management therapy.

Anger Management Therapy for Dementia Patients

Any anger management therapy facilitator or coordinator who works with dementia residents will need to understand the way that those with dementia communicate, and the types of triggers that can draw their anger. This may require some training in long-term facility care, gerontology, and dementia behaviours. The therapist may attempt group or individual therapy, depending on the patient's needs and abilities.

In anger management therapy, the coordinator may try to make the resident understand the consequences of anger outbursts, or attempt to teach the resident how to redirect anger in acceptable ways. At times, the therapist might want to work with the resident's physician, social worker, and family to achieve the best results. This type of effort could take a long time and may be only partially successful yet, any progress is undoubtedly helpful.

Family members and caregivers who want to know more can visit websites like anger-management-information.com for more complete information on how to address this key social and interpersonal behavior. They also can get in touch with the doctor, nursing staff, and social worker for help in assisting a dementia patient through anger management therapy that may lead to improved outcomes for the resident and those that provide his or her care and support.

 

Anger Management Seminars

Anger Management Seminars

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508

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An insight into anger management seminars. Simple steps to a calmer less stressful life This article will help your conquer your anger and improve your self esteem; your family and friends will thanks you for it. Whether you have problems controlling anger or know someone close to you that does then this article is sure to be of interest to you.

Keywords:
anger management, anger class management, anger management technique, anger management teen, anger management program, anger management teenager, adolescent anger management, anger management therapy

Article Body:
If you have problems controlling your temper, you may want to consider enrolling in one of the many popular anger management seminars. There are sure to be some available in your area. If not, you can always suggest that a social services organization sponsor one of these anger management seminars. They are helpful and often fun ways to deal with a potentially distressing problem that can affect the lives of many people.

First, learn a little bit more about anger management in general, and anger management seminars, in particular, by visiting websites like anger-management-information.com. There you can access loads of helpful information about anger management techniques, training, and support, as well as other useful data. Although some sites may not list locations of actual anger management seminars in your area, you can find one near you by browsing the telephone directory yellow pages or white business pages. Then all you have to do is call the listed number for details.

Why Enroll in Anger Management Seminars?

Anger management seminars are held for people who have trouble controlling their tempers. They may be prone to unexpected verbal outbursts, or they might act out their anger in unacceptable ways by raising their voice, arguing with others on little provocation, or becoming physically violent and possibly hurting themselves or others, as well as perhaps damaging furniture or other items. Sometimes you just can't reason with people who get out of control in this fashion. That's when an expert may be able to offer advice, therapy, suggestions, or group dynamics to provide support for someone struggling with anger management.

People of all ages may need to register for anger management seminars. Even children can sometimes lose control when they are overcome by extremely negative emotions stemming from family issues, emotional trauma, or other hurtful situations. Aged people with dementia or other conditions also struggle with anger, sometimes, and may need help in learning to redirect their frustrations and irritations in appropriate ways. Recovering addicts, chronic abusers, and the girl next door all may have the common need for learning how to manage stress and avoid acting out their anger in ways that are harmful to themselves or to others.

What Happens in Anger Management Seminars?

If you decide to attend one or more anger management seminars, you will probably meet a trained therapist or psychologist who will teach the group about anger as an emotion and its suitable as well as unsuitable manifestations. You will meet other people who are learning to recognize the triggers to their angry outbursts, and everyone can exchange ideas for what works and what doesn't in learning to process difficult emotions. You may be offered print or other media resources that can be taken home and utilized when needed. Perhaps you will receive individual counseling that will assist you in addressing unresolved personal or family issues that may be the source of unmanaged anger.

Give some thought to your emotional displays to decide whether anger management seminars may have something to offer you.

 

Anger And Rejections

Anger And Rejections

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Rejections are normal and we all are told no on many occasions. Some persons have difficulty handling rejections and may react hastily to the other person involved. If you walk in a bank and apply for a loan and are rejected you might stomp out the door shouting obscene talk to the lenders. This is not an appropriate way to handle the situation.

This in fact can get you in trouble and it is obvious that rejections are triggers to your emotions that enforce your anger. Now ...

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anger, rejection, rejections, emotions, stress

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Rejections are normal and we all are told no on many occasions. Some persons have difficulty handling rejections and may react hastily to the other person involved. If you walk in a bank and apply for a loan and are rejected you might stomp out the door shouting obscene talk to the lenders. This is not an appropriate way to handle the situation.

This in fact can get you in trouble and it is obvious that rejections are triggers to your emotions that enforce your anger. Now that you see this is a trigger you will need to learn how to cope with your anger and emotions. We can start with the technique to work through your anger by reducing your stress. If you are a spontaneous person then you will need to learn how to cut back on stressors. If you feel pressured in the morning before going to work, try picking out the clothes you will wear for that day the following evening.

This will provide you an extra few minutes during the morning to prepare for work. If you are running like a mad person to meet classes, then you might want to set up a schedule for your self that includes time management. This can help you learn to prepare ahead and stay on top of things without rushing. Instead of roaming thoughts through your head about what you, need to do each day, try handling one task at a time.

This works wonders once you practice and continue with your strategy. When you feel angry, try taking a few deep breaths before you speak. You may also want to practice exercising since this burns energy and often reduces your chances of exploding when your emotions are threatened. If you cannot handle rejections, coach your mind to believe that the person is not centering you out. Repeat over in your mind that no is a positive in many cases.

For example, if you are married, you enjoy going to the bar to chat with your friends, and your husband does not want you to go, and then think why he said no? Obviously, your husband cares about you since he knows that danger is potentially high at bars. He does not want you to get hurt therefore, he is saying no in your best interest. If the bank turns you down on a loan there is a legit reason. Maybe your credit report needs some repairing, or maybe they felt you income would not cover the loan amount.

Therefore, you best interest was at heart again. We all hear no throughout our lifetime and most times, it is for the best reasons. If you apply for a job and are turned down, it might be in your best interest, since the employers felt that your skills were not on the level that the job required of you. Alternatively, you may be over qualified for the job and when you are rejected, the employers are merely saying we do not have the cash to pay you for what you are worth. Thinking positive is always great for managing anger.

If you are prompt to explode when your emotions are interrupted then it is difficulty to manage your life. If you are angry most likely, all areas of your life seem like an uphill travel. When you gain control this often benefits everyone, including your self. Your life starts to improve and your mind is thanking you for removing stress from its cavity. If you are prone to beat your self up when rejections come your way, you might want to find a positive side of your being and enforce it in your mind repeatedly.

Practice makes perfect and this is a great way to train your mind so that you gain control of your mind and anger. If you are frustrated easily, it is probably because you do not take time out of a day for your self to relax. There is nothing wrong with relaxing. Therefore you can sit down for 30 minutes each day and yoga or think of nothing at all. Finally, we are closing so I wanted to let you know that once you practice the strategies for dealing with anger, pat your self on the back each time you make effort and achieve.

 

Analysis : What's In It For us?

Analysis : What's In It For us?

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461

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Hand analysis and Hand reading isn't really anything dark or extremely predictive anymore. It is however not that accurate either.

Keywords:
trustworthy numerologist, astrologer, numerologist,  astropalmist.

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Hand analysis and Hand reading isn't really anything dark or extremely predictive anymore. It is however not that accurate either. It is more modern, logical and almost scientific in approach today and has moved from it's ancient fortune telling roots and tendencies.Modern hand reading has evolved to something more akin to a correctional, motivational and something like a hand-holding tool which can be a great help to get your life back into perspective. It has emerged as an awesome way to introspect oneself and be able to chart out our lives in the right way, getting it back onto course ( If it went wayward, that is!).
 
Since it delves on what kind of person you are as  it throws light upon what might be the best course of action in your life : It might tell you as to which course you must be taking up; which career might suit you better; what kind of people might you be getting along with; where you might end up in relationships; who might make a better spouse for you; what kind of person should you rather be; how you would want to break free ; your approach to problem-solving, decision making and reacting to different situations life can throw at you and a horde of other things which would have all just passed away as mere figments of thinking from an over-worked and constantly stressed mind. 
 
Coupled with psychology, it could prove to be a powerful tool to get a thorough insight about the kind of person you really are. Not only that, it can provide professional help to people who need such help on a regular basis. If you just looked around and put your finger on the level of stress that is floating around in the corporate world today, chances are that your finger would just get burnt. In such a frenetically paced, rat-race infected, jet-age that we live in, tools like these only give the much needed respite in re-directing the entire course of your existence that is threatened to burn itself out. Family behavioural traits, how you would probably behave in different situations and such like is largely dependent on how your ancestors where and this, yet again, can be ascertained from modern hand reading.  

 The uses are many, but the important thing that ought to be remembered is that there is a little bit of unlearning that we might have to do when we deal with ancient subjects like these because what we believe isn't really what we see and what you see generally changes over time. If you ask as to what it can do for you, it might not be much,  but then , if you really wanted to change, it can be something which you can use.

 

An Old Message For A New Age

An Old Message For A New Age

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Do you consider yourself a seeker? I have a feeling if you're reading this article, you do.

If so, how exactly do you define it? What does it mean to you to be a "seeker?"

For me, the definition is constantly in process of clarifying itself, shifting in and out of focus as I ask, "What is it that I'm seeking?" There have been times – days, weeks, months, dare I say years – that it felt like wandering, lost and lonely, in search of a nameless, faceless something that see...

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self-help, seeking, self-improvement, writing, new age, advice, spiritual growth, spirtual, religion

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Do you consider yourself a seeker? I have a feeling if you're reading this article, you do.

If so, how exactly do you define it? What does it mean to you to be a "seeker?"

For me, the definition is constantly in process of clarifying itself, shifting in and out of focus as I ask, "What is it that I'm seeking?" There have been times – days, weeks, months, dare I say years – that it felt like wandering, lost and lonely, in search of a nameless, faceless something that seemed forever before me, but like a mirage, moving farther away the closer I drew. I could not grasp it, but I knew that when found it would make all the pieces of my life click together. Instant happiness and abundance, perfect peace and love. Most of all, everything would finally make sense. I'd know my purpose; I'd be brave enough to live it; I'd have no question that I couldn't readily answer.

I can tell you, after so much time in the desert, I have found no such "something." But that doesn't mean the journey has not been fruitful.

In its finest moments the search has been a pilgrimage. One with the hue of holiness. And in those rare instances I know clearly what it is I seek. I'd like to share a story.

Several years ago my husband's company sponsored a celebrity golf tournament. We attended, and I surprised myself at how star-struck I was! Especially since the stars were sports figures with whom I was barely familiar. Of all of them, the kindest was David Robinson of the San Antonio Spurs. Walking next to him, my head came only to his elbow, but I found him to be a gentle giant. Late in the day I, along with many others, asked for his autograph. When he gave me back the piece of paper it had on it his name and the letters and numbers "Matthew 6:33." I overheard someone explain that he always places a verse from the Bible on his autographs – a different one for each person.

Well, I am someone who does not take things in vain – I believe that everything that happens is a perfect set-up for our growth and learning. So, I went home and looked up the verse. Upon reading it I had one of those "pilgrim" moments.

Matthew 6:33Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and His Righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you as well.

The perfect message for a true seeker. But, of course, the question follows…what does it mean? I know that some will have a very clear-cut answer, but for me it has taken years of touching upon, moving away from, and coming back to the message…to find for myself the meaning. The day I received the verse I typed it up and put it in my meditation space, where I have looked upon it every day since. But lately it has begun to call for my attention more fervently, demanding from me a clearer understanding.

Ultimately, I have come to realize this one sentence as the most basic ingredient for living, and the word that has always stood out to me is "first." Here, the order of things. In our society we are driven by the desire to obtain - material possessions, personal achievement, physical perfection…we strive first and we strive hard. But in this verse we are asked not to "do" first, but to seek. We are told where to begin.

I would like to go slowly, go back and explore this simple message, piece by piece…

Seek ye first the Kingdom of God…

Is this the answer to the interminable question, "What do I seek?"? If so, then I ask, "What exactly is this 'Kingdom of God' that I am after?" My mind immediately travels to another verse – Luke 17:21, which says, "Neither shall they say, Lo here! or, lo there! for, behold, the Kingdom of God is within you."

And so, it is not something beyond my grasp that constantly beckons me. It is not a place, or thing, a job or person, a philosophy, idea or fragment of knowledge. It is not to be found in books or buildings. That which is sought is the Divine reflection within my own being, that same reflection alive within yours and in everything else. The dwelling place of the holy lives no farther than the beat of our own hearts.

For those of us who have been on this quest for a while, this idea is nothing new. I realize that. We read books about getting to know and love and be ourselves. We take classes and workshops in the hopes of prying open the door to that illusive hallowed ground we're after. At the end of every yoga class we say, "Namaste," the Hindu recognition of the Divine spark within us all. I, like you, know where I'm supposed to look; I can think and speak about it; but it is the experience that I am after – that which cannot be spoken of or written about in whole. That which absolutely cannot be taught or bought. That which is secret and private and can only be known in the silent places of one's own soul.

Seek ye first the Kingdom of God…Seek first the Divine within…Seek first, your own truth.

And then we read on…

…and His Righteousness…

Now, here is a phrase for contemplation. For some it is instantly understood and revered; for others, it will make the hair on the back of your neck stand up. It is a loaded word; one that can scare with its asking.

If it is the knowing of our highest selves, a re-union with our own Divinity and, I suspect, with the greater Divinity of all life that we seek, and if we hold faith that the source of Divinity is indwelling, then how do we define this righteousness? I believe that the answer will lie in your own definition, image and knowing of God.

 

An Age Old Secret For Accessing Knowledge

An Age Old Secret For Accessing Knowledge

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Summary:
The human mind has boundless potential, and humans have been exploring many ways to use the mind for thousands of years.  The following technique of visualization can help you acquire new knowledge and skills more quickly than with conventional techniques.

Keywords:
visualization, benefits, brain benefits, meditation, technique, experts head, walking, brain, mental sharpness, increase productivity, brain boost,

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Over the centuries, human beings have developed many techniques to gain access to their inner wisdom and improve learning.
 
One technique that many people have found very beneficial is to have an imaginary guide  that they can call on for advice and insight.
 
A modern variation of this technique has been developed by intelligence researcher Dr. Win Wenger and it is detailed in his book "The Einstein Factor"
 
This exercise is sometimes called "Putting on the Expert's Head"  
 
This technique enables you to access some of the enormous untapped potential that resides in the mind of every individual.  This technique can even accelerate your ability to develop a new skill.  It gives you access to parts of yourself that you are normally not aware of.
 
The first step is to decide what knowledge or skill you would like to develop in yourself.  What are you interested in that you would like to do better?  You might wish to improve your skill at archery, portrait painting, doing mathematics, or playing a musical instrument.   
 
Once you have decided what skill or knowledge you would like to develop, take some time to think about those people you consider an expert in this chosen field.  Whose skills do you admire?  Who do you think of as a great role model and expert in the field?
 
The person need not be currently living.  Before you move ahead with this exercise, you may wish to research the life of the person you have chosen.
 
You might even decide you want to see the world from the perspective of your favorite animal or bird, such as a wolf or an eagle.
 
When you are ready to do the Expert's Head exercise, prepare yourself by deeply relaxing your body and your mind.  Take some time to get comfortable in a place where you will not be disturbed.  Internally scan your body for tension, and allow your muscles to relax.  Breathe calmly and smoothly in a relaxed way. 
 
Now think:  is there a particular place where you would like to meet your imaginary expert?  You might want to meet this guide in your own home, but feel free to imagine another site.  For example, you could visualize meeting in a beautiful garden, in a forest, on top of a mountain, or some other location. 
 
You can improve your ability to visualize imaginatively by speaking out loud your inner impressions to a tape recorder, or to another person.  Eventually, even the slightest glimmer of imagination will be reinforced and amplified by consistent practice of this exercise.
 
If you are not yet able to easily imagine a location in which to meet your chosen expert, don't worry.  Simply move forward to the imagined encounter with this person, whenever you are ready.
 
Your imaginary encounter may go exactly as planned, or there may be surprises in store for you.  Perhaps someone you weren't expecting shows up.  Perhaps your chosen expert does not want to participate.  If no one appears in your mind's imagination, ask for someone to come forward, and then wait.
 
When your imaginary guide appears, handle the encounter with as much politeness and respect as you would a real life encounter with a real person.  Do you feel comfortable in the presence of this expert?  Do you have the sense that the expert feels comfortable with you? 
 
Even if these guides are figments of your inner mind, you still need to be sure you are accessing a part of yourself that wants to promote only the best for you.
 
If you get any sense of discomfort between you, thank the expert for coming, and politely dismiss him or her.  Think of another expert you admire in your chosen field and create an imaginary encounter with that person.  You may even have to create a totally fictitious character to be your imaginary expert.
 
Once you have established a meeting with your chosen expert, mentally picture yourself and your visiting expert standing facing each other in an attitude of great respect.  Gently put your arms out and slowly remove the expert's head from his or her body.  Since this is only an imaginary person or animal, the head should come off quite easily. 
 
Place the expert's head above your own, facing the right way, and lower it over your own head.  Now believe that you are looking out at the world through the eyes of your chosen expert, hearing through the expert's ears, smelling through the expert's nose.
 
Take the time to allow the expert's mind to slowly merge with your own mind.  Now gently pull the expert's body towards you, and step into it.  Feel as if it fits you perfectly.  Feel that you have merged with the expert's body and can feel and do the same things.
 
When you feel that you are actually in the expert's body, notice what seems different to  you. Does the world look different in any way?  Do any of your attitudes feel different?  How does your body feel different?  Can you feel the confident attitude of the expert?  Memorize the sensation.
 
Focus on the differences you notice and start to talk about them out loud.  Spend at least five minutes doing this step.  When you have finished, gently step out of the borrowed imaginary body and carefully remove the expert's head from you own.  Respectfully return the head and body to the expert.  Thank that person for allowing you to have this experience.
 
You can use the Expert's Head technique to improve your skills at some desired activity, or to accelerate your ability to learn to do something you have never done before.
 
First spend a few weeks performing the Expert's Head exercise daily to familiarize yourself with it.  Once you are accustomed to the process of donning the expert's head, you are ready to use this technique to accelerate your skills development. 
 
First spend a few minutes performing the desired skill entirely in your mind.  Feel as if you are actually performing perfectly it and that you really know how to do it.  Then move to the Expert's Head exercise, and spend about 10 –15  minutes, performing the activity in real life, but mentally be the character of the expert, wearing the expert's head and body.
 
After about fifteen minutes, gently remove the expert's head and step out of the expert's body.  Thank the expert for the use of his or her body, mind and talent.  Ask the person to continue filling your mind with more of their expert knowledge and ability even when you are not practicing this exercise.
 
Before the experience starts to fade from your memory, spend a few minutes writing down or speaking out loud everything you can remember.  Write down or speak everything you can remember that was really different when you were in the expert's mind and body, rather than as yourself.
 
When you wish to improve a particular skill, first spend about 15 minutes mentally doing it as yourself.  Then slip into the expert's head and body to continue the exercise in real life for another fifteen to thirty minutes.  If you repeat this process about three times a day, you will experience a greatly accelerated ability to master the skills you desire.
 
Please realize that advice and knowledge received in this manner is not infallible.  Do not feel obligated to act on any advice received from your inner dialogue with your imagined guides unless you are absolutely convinced it is appropriate for you at this time. 
 
This technique can greatly increase access to your inner creativity and wisdom, but you will still need to make informed and reasoned decisions about what you do.

 

Ambitions

Ambitions

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I aim to become the president of my country. I have the object of becoming the greatest scientist.

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Article Body:
I aim to become the president of my country. I have the object of becoming the greatest scientist. I will one day be the richest person in the world. I aim to and so goes the list of ambitions of people. Nobody remembers that the final goal for each one of us is going back to earth. Let us talk more about ambitions.

Are ambitions good or bad? This is difficult to answer, isn't it? To be an ambitious person must be very good. With ambitions a person strives to achieve a great feat. Few of us have very big ambitions and few very small. It all depends on our contentment. What will make us feel happy? What will make us feel worthy, and what will make us feel powerful? It's all about what we want from life. If you want money at any cost, you will compromise with all other values and try to make more money. But if your ambition is to become an honest person and live a God fearing life, no amount of money can attract you to do any wrongs.

Ambitions therefore depend upon our character, culture, mental makeup, outlook, values and so on. Till our ambitions don't trouble others it is ok. If by achieving our goals, we make others happy, that is still better. But if our ambitions hurt others, we must revisit our thinking and redefine our ambitions.

 

Alternative Ways To Help Quit Smoking

Alternative Ways To Help Quit Smoking

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The methods used to help a person quit smoking are as varied as smokers themselves. Some people find that they can quit smoking just by will power alone, going cold turkey and butting out forever. Others may find that in order to stop smoking they may have to enlist the help of others in the form of a support group or other network. Others turn to methods such as the patch or some types of chewing gum. As cultures begin to merge, however, there are more and more medical pract...

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Article Body:
The methods used to help a person quit smoking are as varied as smokers themselves. Some people find that they can quit smoking just by will power alone, going cold turkey and butting out forever. Others may find that in order to stop smoking they may have to enlist the help of others in the form of a support group or other network. Others turn to methods such as the patch or some types of chewing gum. As cultures begin to merge, however, there are more and more medical practices that have previously been unknown to Western science that may have many benefits to those who wish to stop smoking. Some of these alternative methods are discussed in this article.

Acupuncture: Acupuncture originated in China. It is the practice of inserting long, thin needles into various acupuncture points on the body, which is said to restore mental health and well being. As with many Far East ideas, acupuncture is concerned with restoring balance as a whole, rather than applying the health theories of the West to any one assigned area. The piercing points are areas which help to shock the body back into a healthy balance. Acupuncture is highly debated in medical circles, and studies have never conclusively proven that it is an effective treatment for anything at all. However, many patients who have undergone this treatment sweat by its results, and thus it may indeed be an effective tool when it comes to the battle to quit smoking. Addiction, after all, is in part a mental affliction, and thus if a patient believes that a treatment is working then it is possible that it is doing so. Additionally, acupuncture has been demonstrated to assist in the release of endorphins, the full effects of which on the body as a whole are still unknown to some degree.

Hypnosis: Another method that many smokers try to use when attempting to quit is hypnosis. It is vital that hypnosis be understood in its rightful context, rather than the societal myth. Hypnosis works along the same lines as subliminal messaging; by applying the power of suggestion to a subject who is concentrating on another matter, it is possible to affect the thinking processes of the brain. In this way, hypnosis can be used to curb the cravings that come with nicotine addiction and often lead the smoker to relapse.

There are also several changes to lifestyle that can be made in order to increase the amounts of dopamine found within the body. Dopamine is the active ingredient in Zyban, and levels of dopamine can be increased through a higher protein intake, stress reduction, and by taking vitamins and herbs such as Indian ginseng and magnesium.

Despite these methods and there levels of success, however, it is important to note that the key ingredient when it comes to smoking cessation is will power. No matter which other method you choose to assist you in ending the cravings and lessening the physical symptoms of withdrawal, sooner or later it is going to come down to your ability to say no to a cigarette that will ensure the end of the habit's hold on your life.

 

All The Money In The World Will Not Take Away Your Fears And Anxieties

All The Money In The World Will Not Take Away Your Fears And Anxieties

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All the money in the world will not take away your fears and anxieties. You can be the most successful person in your business, however your money and success will do nothing in getting rid of your stresses and anxieties. So what do you do to make your fears and anxieties to go away? Well, since money and fame are not the answers, then the best solution is to be smart in how you manage your fears. Here are some ways in how to manage your persistent fears and anxieties.

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Article Body:
All the money in the world will not take away your fears and anxieties. You can be the most successful person in your business, however your money and success will do nothing in getting rid of your stresses and anxieties. So what do you do to make your fears and anxieties to go away? Well, since money and fame are not the answers, then the best solution is to be smart in how you manage your fears. Here are some ways in how to manage your persistent fears and anxieties.

Take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week or coming month, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems. Focus on the present and stop trying to predict what may happen next week. Next week will take care of itself.

Learn how to manage your fearful thoughts that may be difficult to manage. When experiencing a negative thought, read some positive statements and affirmations that help lift your spirits and make you feel better. Remember that your fearful thoughts may be exaggerated so balance these thoughts with realistic thinking and common sense.

Take advantage of the help that is available around you. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your fears and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem. By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future. Managing your fears and anxieties takes practice. The more you practice, the better you will become.

When managing your fears and anxieties do not try to tackle everything at once. The best solution is to break your fears or problems into a series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one at a time will make the stress more manageable and increases your chances of success.

Managing your fears and anxieties will take some hard work. Sooner or later, you will have to confront your fears and anxieties. Remember that all you can do is to do your best each day, hope for the best, and take things in stride. Patience, persistence, education, and being committed in trying to solve your problem will go along way in fixing your problems.

 

Advantages of Using The Absolutely Right Self Improvement Techniques

Advantages of Using The Absolutely Right Self Improvement Techniques

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402

Summary:
Take the time to become familiar with the different "self help" and "self improvement" techniques that are available.  Using the right techniques can make the difference between "breaking through" and not.  Consider a source of self help and self improvement practices that gives a wide enough choice to find what's right for you.  Here are some of the benefits you can enjoy with the right techniques.

Keywords:
self help, success, self improvement, self actualization

Article Body:
Take the time to become familiar with the different "self help" and "self improvement" techniques that are available.  Using the right techniques can make the difference between "breaking through" and not.  Consider a source of self help and self improvement practices that gives a wide enough choice to find what's right for you.  Here are some of the benefits you can enjoy with the right techniques.

Discover your life purpose!  Why are you here on this earth?  Is there a specific purpose for your life?  What about all the other people?   Do you think life events are due to accident and chance?

Find out who you really are and what you really want!  Are you actually leading the life that is the true you?  Or are your circumstances living unconsciously thru you?

Eliminate and manage your fears!  If you could stand back and view yourself on the "stage of your life" could you see where your fears come from and act in a different manner?

Manage unseen forces in your relationships.  Many people repeat the same issues in a series of relationships.  Has this happened to you?  Use the right technique to learn what is really going and get past it!

Understand and cope with confusing and changing times!  Have certain puzzling events unfolded in your life?  Would you like to know if there is a reason for their appearance?

Learn to make decisions and not worry about mistakes!  Enhance your instincts and intuition so you can better rely on your (developed) judgement.

Develop confidence in yourself, based on better knowing who you truly are.

Design your own roadmap to success!  Base your plans on a "higher " level of knowledge.

Learn the Three Step Formula to deliberate attraction..

Learn to repair negative experiences and emotions that are holding you back.

Learn why you may be repeatedly attracting negative events, people, and circumstances.

Learn why most people are "programmed" for unhappiness and what to do about it!

Learn what keeps us stuck in the same "life patterns" when we think we're changing!

Are you actually responsible for everything that happens to you or are their actual  "external events"?

Learn to release limiting beliefs and emotions known as "blocks"!

If you desire to experience any of these benefits in your life, find the self help tools and techniques that will help you to do so!  For a helpful FREE REPORT, see below.

 

Adult ADD And The Art Of Grocery Shopping

Adult ADD And The Art Of Grocery Shopping

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427

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One of my greatest struggle with sticking to a budget, is that I always overspend what I budget on food. Here are some of my tips to help an Adult with ADD when going Grocery Shopping:

1. Write a menu of what you want to eat for the week. Make sure to include breakfast, lunch, and snacks. There are software products available to help adults with ADD who are more visual thinkers.
 
2. Based on the menu create a list of what you will need to prepare the items on your menu....

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Article Body:
One of my greatest struggle with sticking to a budget, is that I always overspend what I budget on food. Here are some of my tips to help an Adult with ADD when going Grocery Shopping:

1. Write a menu of what you want to eat for the week. Make sure to include breakfast, lunch, and snacks. There are software products available to help adults with ADD who are more visual thinkers.
 
2. Based on the menu create a list of what you will need to prepare the items on your menu.

3. Look in your cabinets and refrigerator, for items that are on your list, remove those items from your list. If you go the supermarkets to buy cleaning products or toiletries, you will need to check your bathroom, closets, and if you are like me anywhere else in the house where you put these items. Add items that you are running low on, on to the list.

4. Can you afford the items that are on your list? This will be difficult to determine if this is the first time that you have set a limit for yourself, or if grocery shopping is new to you. Once you have shopped a couple of times with a set limit, you will understand whether your food budget is realistic, or if you will have to make changes to your limit or what you buy. A lot of adults with ADD like to use online services that will deliver the groceries to you. This can be helpful for several reasons; it will total up all you purchases before you make them, it reduce the time of a mundane task, and it helps to control impulse buying.

5. If you are planning to go out shopping, make sure you eat a proper meal before hand. This helps you keep a clear head and reduce impulse buying, by not buying things that you are craving because you are hungry.

6. Have you checked circulars, newspapers or the Internet for coupons for the products that are on your list? This can be dangerous because you might also be tempted to buy additional items that you do not really need.

7. Before you head out decide if you want to go to one store or more than one store. While you can save money by going to additional stores, I would not recommend it. First the additional money and time that you spend traveling could negate any savings that you get. Second it adds a lot of complexity to a task that should be done as simply as possible.

 

Adopting a New Creed to Turn Your Life Around.

Adopting a New Creed to Turn Your Life Around.

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664

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How many times in your life have you signed your name to an agreement that bound you to do something? This positive creed says "do, rather than do not"; "do, rather than talk about it"; "do, rather than wish"; "do, rather than wait."

Keywords:
subconscious, mind, subconscious mind, mind power, the power of the subconscious mind, mind control, mind game, mind body, well trained mind, emmanuel segui

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Copyright 2006 Emmanuel Segui

How many times in your life have you signed your name to an agreement that bound you to do something?

Even though you put great value on your personal freedom, and you would be wary of agreeing to do anything that would jeopardize it, you have committed yourself to certain things where a penalty was involved if you did not do them.

Even when you opened your bank account, and applied for your insurance, you agreed to be bound by certain specific conditions. Probably right now much of your use of money, and your personal and vocational life, is influenced by such agreements. You signed your name to such binding agreements because it was the only way you could have or do what you considered necessary in your life

Sign your life away!

These are all agreements you have made with other people. But what about yourself?

Have you ever made an agreement with yourself, to do something for yourself? This is the most important kind of an agreement you can make, and I propose that you make one right now. This agreement involves not parts of your life, but rather your whole life, and I believe that you are ready for it.

You are ready now to understand a new creed of living. And you are ready to accept and adopt this creed.

This is the creed of "do," the positive creed of action, performance, production and accomplishment. It is the opposite of the creed of "do not," the negative creed of rejection, procrastination, fear and failure.

This positive creed says "do, rather than do not"; "do, rather than talk about it"; "do, rather than wish"; "do, rather than wait."

Are you willing to embrace this creed? I am sure that it wouldn't take more than a little self-influence for you to do so. And I am sure that you are willing to say that your attitude toward it is that it is a good creed, and a right creed, for you.

But like any creed, this one says a lot in a few words, so I want you to consider the "fine print" that is in back of those words before you go all the way and say it is your creed.

Furthermore, I am sure you will agree with me when I say the acceptance of the creed should make a "noteworthy" impression on your subconscious mind. You will start out with a good attitude, of course, but the objective agreed upon should be to make this creed a good habit. So let's consider what is implied in the "fine print."

You will be a person who has veered away from the normal track and from living the typical, ultra-conventional life.

You will be a person who is always on the productive, progressive track, and that is abnormal!

This "do" creed, then, means that you will live abnormally, or above the normal. You will travel only on the positive side of the road of life. You will live immoderately, by going "all the way." Knowing the true significance of this creed, are you now willing to ally yourself with it?

You have not the slightest reason to be hesitant about your decision. This is the creed of a person who has established his own importance to himself. But there is still another vital reason for its being your creed. The creed of "do" is made up of the kind of stuff that makes subconscious self-influence clear and certain. You will have the highest score of "noteworthy" impressions on your subconscious by acting according to the creed. The creed will make your subconscious the kind of a partner you want it to be.

Are you adopting the creed? You are, so say "yes"!

Say it aloud, so that conscious will of yours blinks a bit from the reverberations and so that your affirmation is recorded on that subconscious camera as the brightest impression ever!

This is the turning point.

 

Adolescent Anger Management Strategies

Adolescent Anger Management Strategies

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The truth about anger management. Simple steps to a calmer less stressful life This article will help your conquer your anger and improve your self esteem; your family and friends will thanks you for it. Whether you have problems controlling anger or know someone close to you that does then this article is sure to be of interest to you.

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anger management, anger class management, anger management technique, anger management teen, anger management program, anger management teenager, adolescent anger management

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Adolescent anger management is becoming more prominent in our society. Traditionally, children who enter this last acute phase of bodily and mental development can go through some rough times. As kids enter their preteen and then their teenage years, chaos can ensue at times for everyone involved. A child or young adult may feel that his or her body and mind are out of control occasionally, and the parents and teachers who supervise children at this age may tend to agree. Anger can spring out of nowhere to challenge innocent requests and reasonable expectations. Yet kids between the age of twelve and sixteen sometimes react in unpredictable ways, surprising those around them and even themselves and requiring the intervention of adolescent anger management strategies.

Today's teens face even greater pressures than those of the past. By age eighteen, most have witnessed thousands of murders on television and video games. Some are involved in violent or illegal gang activity. Others come from broken homes where domestic violence and substance abuse are the norm. By the time they start going through puberty, their entire existence may seem out of their control, and they may grow increasingly enraged, acting out their anger in antisocial ways that require adolescent anger management.

Adolescent Anger Management and Juvenile Delinquents

Sadly, many teens experience frustrations that drive them to vent anger toward people or things, breaking civil laws. This type of behavior often leads to incarceration, or at the very least, intervention by parents, teachers, law enforcement officials, and juvenile experts who attempt to train children how to respond in age-appropriate ways. Adolescent anger management programs teach kids individually or in peer groups how to identify negative feelings, work through them in the right kind of ways, seek help when needed, and practice more mature behaviors.

During periods of time spent at juvenile detention centers, teens involved in adolescent anger management programs can learn how to improve their behavior in socially acceptable ways. Therapists can help to point out alternative attitudes and behaviors to teens who have never seen positive responses to everyday irritations modeled for them by responsible adults. They may be able to learn directly from the therapist how to manage difficult feelings, and they can read resource materials or visit websites like anger-management-information.com (site is not complete yet) for more information about this condition, and how to address it. They will find others like themselves who are learning how to get along with people and accept the situations that cannot be changed.

Community Adolescent Anger Management Programs

If you have or work with a teenager that is struggling with angry outbursts and a poor attitude, get in touch with a teacher or psychologist at your child's school or a community social services organization that can direct you to self-help resources or a local adolescent anger management group that might be willing to admit your child. Letting unresolved anger fester or continue to be displayed in dangerous ways can lead to serious consequences. Get your teen the help that is needed for coping with this behavioral disorder.

 

Adolescent Anger Management Strategies

Adolescent Anger Management Strategies

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Summary:
The truth about anger management. Simple steps to a calmer less stressful life This article will help your conquer your anger and improve your self esteem; your family and friends will thanks you for it. Whether you have problems controlling anger or know someone close to you that does then this article is sure to be of interest to you.

Keywords:
anger management, anger class management, anger management technique, anger management teen, anger management program, anger management teenager, adolescent anger management

Article Body:
Adolescent anger management is becoming more prominent in our society. Traditionally, children who enter this last acute phase of bodily and mental development can go through some rough times. As kids enter their preteen and then their teenage years, chaos can ensue at times for everyone involved. A child or young adult may feel that his or her body and mind are out of control occasionally, and the parents and teachers who supervise children at this age may tend to agree. Anger can spring out of nowhere to challenge innocent requests and reasonable expectations. Yet kids between the age of twelve and sixteen sometimes react in unpredictable ways, surprising those around them and even themselves and requiring the intervention of adolescent anger management strategies.

Today's teens face even greater pressures than those of the past. By age eighteen, most have witnessed thousands of murders on television and video games. Some are involved in violent or illegal gang activity. Others come from broken homes where domestic violence and substance abuse are the norm. By the time they start going through puberty, their entire existence may seem out of their control, and they may grow increasingly enraged, acting out their anger in antisocial ways that require adolescent anger management.

Adolescent Anger Management and Juvenile Delinquents

Sadly, many teens experience frustrations that drive them to vent anger toward people or things, breaking civil laws. This type of behavior often leads to incarceration, or at the very least, intervention by parents, teachers, law enforcement officials, and juvenile experts who attempt to train children how to respond in age-appropriate ways. Adolescent anger management programs teach kids individually or in peer groups how to identify negative feelings, work through them in the right kind of ways, seek help when needed, and practice more mature behaviors.

During periods of time spent at juvenile detention centers, teens involved in adolescent anger management programs can learn how to improve their behavior in socially acceptable ways. Therapists can help to point out alternative attitudes and behaviors to teens who have never seen positive responses to everyday irritations modeled for them by responsible adults. They may be able to learn directly from the therapist how to manage difficult feelings, and they can read resource materials or visit websites like anger-management-information.com (site is not complete yet) for more information about this condition, and how to address it. They will find others like themselves who are learning how to get along with people and accept the situations that cannot be changed.

Community Adolescent Anger Management Programs

If you have or work with a teenager that is struggling with angry outbursts and a poor attitude, get in touch with a teacher or psychologist at your child's school or a community social services organization that can direct you to self-help resources or a local adolescent anger management group that might be willing to admit your child. Letting unresolved anger fester or continue to be displayed in dangerous ways can lead to serious consequences. Get your teen the help that is needed for coping with this behavioral disorder.

 

Add, Subtract, Change : A Problem Solving Technique

Add, Subtract, Change : A Problem Solving Technique

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295

Summary:
Need creative solutions? If you want to go beyond the sit-and-think-about-it method, you need some good problem solving techniques. Try this one.

Keywords:
problem solving,problem solving techniques,creative problem solving,solve problems

Article Body:
How do you like to solve your problems? Do you prefer to use the more creative problem solving techniques, or the systematic ones? You'll get the best of both with the add-subtract-change method.

Add, Subtract, Change

I am sitting here looking at my bicycle as I write this. To come up with new ideas in bicycle design, all we have to do is look at the elements that are there and ask three things. What can we add, what can we subtract, and what can we change?

Would pet owners like a built-in dog or cat carrier? Are 18 gears necessary? There are still six gears and one less thing to break if a shifter is removed. What if the wheels were larger or the frame made of a flexible material? What would the advantages be?

Personal Problems Too

The add-subtract-change technique is well suited to developing new products, but what if your having trouble sticking to an exercise plan? Will this kind of problem solving  method work for personal issues? You won't know until you try it. Hmm...

Add: A better machine, motivation techniques, caffeine. Subtract: Distractions, unrealistic goals, uncomfortable clothing. Change: Location, time of day, type of exercise.

The key is to look at as many aspects of the current situation as you can identify, and to let your mind answer the three questions for each one. Taking notes is a good idea too, but write down everything. Don't stifle your mind - the time to pick out the useable ideas is later.

There are dozens of good creative problem solving techniques you can use. Some will work better for you, some worse, but one way to solve problems effectively is to use more than one technique. Why not add this one to your arsenal?

 

Accentuate The Positive

Accentuate The Positive

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799

Summary:
How badly do you want your life to change and improve? How much have you studied up on self-help, personal development and success? How many articles and publications have you read? While research, thought and planning are important tools on your path to success, they are not the only weapons in your arsenal and in fact might even be hindering your success if you give into the easy choice of becoming a perpetual student of success. If you read every self-help book available, ...

Keywords:
inspiration, motivation, self help, success, self improvement, goal, visualization, happiness

Article Body:
How badly do you want your life to change and improve? How much have you studied up on self-help, personal development and success? How many articles and publications have you read? While research, thought and planning are important tools on your path to success, they are not the only weapons in your arsenal and in fact might even be hindering your success if you give into the easy choice of becoming a perpetual student of success. If you read every self-help book available, then you will never become a success because there won't be any time left to act upon the advice those publications offer. While it is good to listen to advice, eventually you are going to have to take action and that can't be done while reading. Our every thought either takes us toward our goals and desires or away from those goals and desires. Therefore, every thought has a positive or negative effect on the direction of our lives.

Compare your brain to a computer. If a new PC is loaded up with virus contaminated programs, would you expect it to run smoothly? Of course not, because you get out of the computer exactly what you put in, as my former computer programming teacher always said "garbage in, garbage out" and your brain is exactly the same.

Your every thought determines the direction of your life. If you are moving backward then take time to analyze your thoughts. Make a determined effort to recognize negative thoughts and treat them as your worst enemy. Try not to dwell on them. Putty can be molded into any shape or form and so, too, your life can be shaped and your destiny set by your thoughts.

If you find yourself weighed down by a lot of negative thoughts find a way to let them out. If you have a considerate, nonjudgmental friend who is willing to listen, then vent. Pets are great sympathetic listeners. You can also use a journal to vent your negative thoughts. A good friend of mine recently went through a very difficult time, professionally and personally, and while she did a fair amount of crying on the shoulders of her loved ones she found it counterproductive because they were too sympathetic and that sympathy would often only emphasize her sense that she'd been wronged. She needed to find a way to break that cycle so she could move on. She wrote out her frustration and anger and then held a symbolic burning party. I haven't tried her method myself but am holding it in reserve for future tough times.

Remember, the potential for change is the same for everyone. It only takes acceptance of the idea that change is possible coupled with the determination to follow through. It's not always easy to control our thoughts, but certainly not impossible, and the rewards can last a lifetime.

There are many books on the subject of self-help, but remember, you must take action to succeed. Your thoughts will not change simple by reading an article or book. You must apply what you learn to your everyday affairs. Allow what you read to awaken the possibility of change within you, then take action.

One of the most beneficial practices for positive thinking is to look for the "good" in everyone and everything. Remember to encourage others everyday by a kind word or deed and be ready to offer (or receive) compliments.

Find opportunities to put the power of your positive thinking to work. For example, you might be standing in a long line at the supermarket checkout. Rather than get upset, do your utmost to help out and encourage others with a kind word or compliment. You will be surprised at the positive reaction and at how many people will bless you with a wonderful smile in return.

Taking the time to notice others and look for the "good" in every situation will not only lift your spirits, but will brighten the day for everyone around you - it's a win-win situation to be sure. There are a 1001 ways to look for the good in others, be they family, friends or those you may only meet once. So, get the lead-out, get rid of those negative thoughts and become a winner.

Begin today to change your thought patterns one step at a time. Set yourself a goal for the week or month and devote full attention to controlling your thoughts. Start with at least one hour each day and increase the time as your confidence and thinking improve. It is a habit that needs nurturing and a habit you'll come to cherish.

If you accentuate the positives in your life and concentrate on making more positive changes, then there will be no stopping you on your road to success.

 

About Astrology

About Astrology

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451

Summary:
Astrology is the study of planetary position to determine the course of things ahead in life as well as event and details concerning past life or karma.

Keywords:
palm reader, horoscope, indian astrology, palmistry, numerology.

Article Body:
Astrology is the study of planetary position to determine the course of things ahead in life as well as event and details concerning past life or karma.  The earliest recording or sign of astrology was found in the 3rd millennium BC. Astrology has over the course of time, influenced culture, early astronomy and other disciplines.

Astrology uses two ways of predicting the future – one is astrological transits and the other is astrological progressions. It is important to understand how both play, in the way a horoscope is read out and predications made. Astrological transits look into the movement of planets and the impact of such movements in space and n personal horoscope. Astrological progressions use a set of methods to determine how a horoscope ha s moved forward in time.  Now-a-days, astrologers no longer predict actual events.  Instead what they do is bring out various general astrological events in order to have better results and give importance to arbitrary and unrelated events.

There are three main astrological traditions. These are Vedic astrology, Western astrology and Chinese astrology. Vedic and western astrology make use of an astrological chart or horoscope and make their prediction using the position of the Sun, Moon, and planets. However, the point of difference between Vedic and Western astrology is in the linking of zodiac signs to their original constellations, which while is a feature not present in western astrology, but is considered of paramount importance in Vedic astrology.  The chief characteristic of Vedic astrology is in it's use of nakshatras or lunar mansion and planetary periods known as dashas in future predictions.

Chinese astrology uses a means that is very different from Vedic and western astrology. Instead of diving zodiac signs according to the sky, they are divided according to the celestial equator. Every zodiac sign here stands for a year and the sign is combined with a system that uses the five elements of Chinese cosmology to give a 60 (12 x 5) year cycle. Chinese astrology is a method not just used in China, it is used in m many Asian countries.

Now, the question is – can the future be predicted by astrology? Yes to some extent. Astrology, though considered by many scientific thinkers as some sort of superstition, is actually a science because there is considerable study that goes into making each prediction. Reliable astrologers have been able to bring out future influences to accuracy, but accuracy also depends upon providing correct information and doing knowledgeable calculations. Of the many forms of astrological methods available nadi jyosiam is considered to be highly accurate as it is based on readings of past life taken from leave available in Videesvaran temple in the state of Tamil Nadu, India.

 

Abandoned Again—How We Repeat Our Childhood in the Present

Abandoned Again—How We Repeat Our Childhood in the Present

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660

Summary:
You can change these old patterns. It takes time, awareness, determination, and work on your part, but it can be done.

How to help stop repeating abandonment and abuse in your life now.

Keywords:
mother abandonment, self help, recovery, depression, communication, memoirs, healing, families, self improvement, life story, forgiveness

Article Body:
The woman on the couch looks up at me miserably, tears in her eyes, as she tells me about her most recent bad relationship. "I'm sick of choosing guys who aren't there for me. They seem great, they want me, they tell me how terrific I am, then either they have an affair, or turn on me once we are involved, getting that cold look in their eyes. I can see they don't care after all. I can't stand this. Why do I do this over and over?"

In my work as a therapist, I help people discover repeated patterns. Despite our conscious desire and urgent efforts to make our lives better, we end up feeling the same as we did as children, but the feeling of despair and depression can deepen if we see that we are simply repeating our abusive or abandoned childhood.

This may seem confusing to understand, but this is how it works: Rooted deep in the unconscious is a desire to make the story turn out right—to find someone who will finally come through and love us the way we want. But the pattern of repetition, until it is resolved, will cause us to choose people who will do exactly what was done to us as children. If you were abandoned, they will abandon you. If you were hurt physically, this may be what you experience all over again.

For instance, most women involved in relationships where there is domestic violence either were beaten as children, or observed it for many years. If you were verbally abused, you will find yourself hearing the same phrases and feeling exactly the same as you did when you were a child. There you are, thinking you have just found the love of your life, when a terrible feeling comes over you—"I have been here before," says the voice inside your head, a feeling of dread running through your body. It's not déjà vu; it is an unconscious repetition of the past.

There is good news about all this: You can change these old patterns. It takes time, awareness, determination, and work on your part, but it can be done.

How to help stop repeating abandonment and abuse in your life now:

1. First, you have to recognize you are repeating your past patterns. Become aware of a familiar, sinking feeling, or the feeling that you are a bad person, or not good enough, or feel awful about yourself. Ask yourself: is there something going on now that reinforces that feeling?

2. Consider your past patterns with parents. It helps to write down these patterns, as you can be objective about them if you see them on the page.

3. Write about being a child of about five years old; nine years old; 12. What was life like in your household? Who was there connecting with you, and how?

4. After making that objective list of patterns in family and in the past, write down any parallels between then and now, paying particular attention to feelings. Sometimes the action is different but the feeling is the same.

5. When you are drawn to a new person, get to know him better before getting involved. Spend time to find out how he treats you when he is having a bad day, or how he acts when you say no. How you are treated at the beginning of a relationship when you are not being pleasing or saying yes, when you make boundaries for yourself, is only a hint of how it will be later on.

6. Keep your need to be loved and accepted in balance with who the other person is and his or her needs. Take your time to find out more before getting too involved.

7. Write in your journal to become more aware of patterns, concerns, and actual events. You can refer back to them later. This documentation may clear up any future confusion about reality.

 

 

 

A Rested Mind Can Improve Your Productivity

A Rested Mind Can Improve Your Productivity

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697

Summary:
Imagine that you're working late at night on a project due in the morning. Your body is tired and your mind is numb, but this project must get done, so you push on. You continue to work, despite the distinct feeling that the project would be much easier if you went to bed and approached it again in the morning. You feel obligated to do it now, so you stay up until the wee hours of the morning, producing less than desirable work in much more time than it would have taken with ...

Keywords:
improve productivity,improve efficiency,strengthen memory,improve concentration,restful mind

Article Body:
Imagine that you're working late at night on a project due in the morning. Your body is tired and your mind is numb, but this project must get done, so you push on. You continue to work, despite the distinct feeling that the project would be much easier if you went to bed and approached it again in the morning. You feel obligated to do it now, so you stay up until the wee hours of the morning, producing less than desirable work in much more time than it would have taken with a rested mind. This was likely not the wisest move, since not only productivity was lost, but quality as well.

Having a rested mind really can make a difference in our daily productivity, whether it's work or housework we are trying to accomplish. Our minds were not meant to work for hours on end with no downtime. They need breaks and vacations. They need the ability to recharge from the daily overload of sensory and thought perceptions. Constantly running our minds on overtime without frequent periods of restoration can be detrimental to our work, our attitude, and even our physical health.

Luckily, there are a few simple steps you can take to prevent your mind from working on overload. Follow these helpful tips and ideas for increasing your daily productivity:

Get more sleep – Adequate sleep is crucial to allowing our subconscious minds to let go of all the stress of the day. During sleep our minds recharge themselves, generating the stamina and renewed perception needed for a fresh new day. If we fail to get adequate sleep, our minds will be sluggish and slow, essentially shutting down from the overload of stimuli. This creates conditions in which we cannot effectively think, speak, or act to our fullest potential.

Without the level of awareness and alertness that a rested mind provides, our pace slows down and productivity is lost. When our minds are overworked we often fall into "space cadet" mode, and we have trouble focusing on the tasks at hand. Thoughts frequently wander, and the ability to concentrate is lost. Most people know how much sleep they require to feel refreshed, but we rarely allow ourselves such a luxury. Try viewing adequate sleep as an investment into your overall well-being, and reap the rewards the next morning.

Reduce stress – Excessive stress can be very debilitating. It makes us feel overwhelmed and distracts us from getting our work done, and even worse - it promotes the formation of negative thoughts. Stress can hinder our productivity by making us more scattered and unfocused. We are unable to concentrate on one thing at a time because the cause of the stress is always in the back our minds, demanding attention.

Reducing the stressors in our lives will go a long way in allowing us to lead more productive and happy lives. Try to remember that some things are just not worth worrying about, and there is no sense in stressing over things we have no control over. Since much of our stress is the result of worrying about things beyond our control, allowing ourselves to let go of these thoughts can greatly reduce the stress in our lives.

Quiet the mind – Meditation is a great way to quiet our minds and develop clear thought processes. Try this exercise at least once a day: Find a quiet room with no interruptions, sit in a comfortable position, and close your eyes. Allow all thoughts to leave your mind, and try to focus on the silence within you. As thoughts begin to float through your mind, simply push them gently but firmly back out. This technique takes practice to perfect, but sticking with it will help you to develop intense focus that can be harnessed in other ways as well.

Meditating on a regular basis will ultimately improve our productivity because we will develop the ability to focus clearly on each task, and ultimately get more done in less time.

These are just a few of the easy ways we can contribute to a rested mind, which will help us to release stress, improve our focus, and increase our productivity.

 

A Place of Sanctuary - Creating Sacred Space

A Place of Sanctuary - Creating Sacred Space

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683

Summary:
Creating sacred space and providing a place of sanctuary in the home, workplace, and garden is the focus of this article.  Questions to consider and ideas and options to create a 'garden for the soul' are outlined.

Keywords:
sanctuary, sacred space, spirituality, personal power, biological need, peace of mind

Article Body:
The World Health Organization (WHO) describes health as "the condition of perfect bodily, spiritual, and social well-being and not solely the absence of illness and injury."   As described by the WHO, how many of us feel emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually healthy on a daily basis?  We work in structures called 'sick-buildings;' we go home to care for families so tired we are almost unable to function; and we increasingly lose our connection with any sense of our place in the universe.  How do we reclaim our life and start to think that our life matters and that we are important in the overall scheme of things? One way of doing this is to create our own sanctuary/sacred space. 

Creating our own sacred space restores our peace of mind and enables us to stand back from the turmoil in our lives in order to provide a place where we can reconnect with our sense of self and reclaim our power.  Exploration of sanctuary is to create a link to the Divine as our soul asks us to love, accept, and provide hospitality to ourselves when we are spiritually hungry.   Spirituality is more than a psychological and emotional need: it is an inherent biological need as our energy, our spirit, and our personal power is all one and the same force. We need daily sanctuary as our heart and soul depends on it.  When we give ourselves the gift of sacred time in a special place, we are feeding our spirit.  Theodore Roszak writes, "We can now recognise that the fate of the soul is the fate of the social order; that if the spirit within us withers, so too will all the world we build about us." 

Creating Sacred Space in your Home, Workplace, and Garden

The first consideration in creating a sacred space in your home, workplace, or garden is defining the purpose in doing so.  Some of the questions for consideration include:

1.  What is it that you want your sacred space to provide for you? 

2.  Where will your sanctuary be located?

3.  What feelings do you want? 

4.  What attracts you to your sanctuary?
 
5.  What features do you want? 

6.  What colours do you want?

7.  What sounds do you want?

Ideas and Options for Creating Sacred Space in your Home, Workplace, and Garden

In your place of sanctuary, some of the items you could include are:

·  Candles – you can use candles to provide colour and when burning provide a point of focus for meditation.  Scented candles can add a touch of fragrance to your environment.

·  Plants – your plants will require care, and not only will make the air more healthy, but will encourage you to attend your place of sanctuary.  Plants can also be used to enhance particular colours and fragrances you wish to add to your well-being.

·  Water – adding desktop water fountains to your place of sacredness will not only provide the soothing sounds of water, but will also block out other noises in your environment.

·  Music – music as my Dad used to say, "feeds the soul."  Use music you like, such as, sounds of nature or instrumental music, to provide a place of soothing for your soul.

·  Aquariums – live fish and the sounds of water provide healing energy for your sacred space.  In the Chinese culture, live fish are thought to be 'good energy.'

·  Rocks and stones – are considered in many cultures to be sacred.  Use in your place of sanctuary and, when you are tired or stressed-out, re-arrange your 'rock garden.'

·  Walls – walls can be used to act as, or hang notice boards on, where you can post favourite pictures, quotes, and ideas.

·  Spend at least 10 minutes a day (20 is better) in refreshing and renewing your spiritual self.

Finally, in creating your sacred space, remember you are unique.  There will never be anyone on the planet like you and you have a right to spend time caring for yourself.  As Richard Bolles in his book What Colour Is Your Parachute says, "You are God's gift to the planet and your uniqueness is the gift to the rest of us."